Untethered. Free. Peaceful. Harmonious. Joyous. Loving. Acceptant. These are the beautiful states of being that you are looking for. The reason these can be so elusive in the context of family or intimate relationships is because you continue to rely on each other to meet your unmet needs. These are not needs dictated or guided by your soul, but by your ego.
Ego strives to achieve its own goals at the expense of others. The soul – your higher self– has only one desire: to offer love unconditionally, without reservation, without conditions, without judgement, without attachment, without force of will. This outpouring of love defies words. It is never depleted and it never tires.
With great tenderness, ask yourself these questions. Are you addicted to your pain? Are you addicted to your drama? Does unconditional love sound boring? To love without agenda or expectation is to recognize that your love may not be reciprocated. Does that thought make you feel sad, lonely, envious, or jealous?
Shining the full light of love on another requires the highest and best you have to offer. For most humans, it is more than they are willing to give. The world needs way-showers – those who are willing to carry the torch of unconditional love. Rather than demanding the highest and best in others, you will serve as an example, inspiring humanity to choose unconditional love over ego-driven love.
Seek to express rather than to impress. Pursue internal validation rather than external validation. Let your love flow like water streaming from a fire hydrant. And watch the world transform before your eyes.
